Control the Scroll
Stop numbing and start living.
Do you:
feel overwhelmed with being over-connected, but like you can never get away from it.
make jokes about being addicted to your phone and say ‘that’s just the way life is’
secretly wish your could throw your phone away and never talk to anyone again.
Enter Control the Scroll.
It’s my new program that teaches you how using your phone takes your time away and how to get it back so you can focus on what truly matters to you, whether it’s being more present with your friends at dinner, taking action on getting that climate justice law degree, starting a new sustainability initiative at work, or just getting more sleep.
You’ll learn how to use your brain to overcome your urges to pick up your phone and scroll, so you can still use your phone and social media, but it will be under your control because you will understand what your brain and social media is doing to you.
Here’s where you’re at now:
You are overwhelmed with seeing what everyone else is doing and what is happening in the world. You feel like you always have to answer texts and emails as they come in, and to essentially be on call all the time. You think you can’t live without your phone. What if there’s an emergency or we miss a news alert or someone needs us?
So you scroll social media and we see what other people are doing constantly, and see the bad news happening in the world.
Then to avoid those feelings of guilt or helplessness, you scroll more and you play games and you shop and you waste your life away.
You feel debilitated to do anything about the world around you or to change your life in a way that is against the status quo you see online.
But I’m here to tell you that you can change that!
You don’t have to answer texts or feed into the news feed and like things you don’t like or comment because “everyone expects it”.
You can decide how you want to act and what you want to do.
You can say what you think and feel.
You can help the world in whatever way you want to.
You can change your life.
You just have to get off your phone to do it.
Phones, and all the apps that come with them, are a part of our life and it’s not going away anytime soon.
So instead of feeling overwhelmed, anxious or unfocused, we have to learn how to live with our phone peacefully and use it as a tool.
In the Control the Scroll coaching program, you will learn how to:
live comfortably with and without your phone,
how to process your emotions surrounding your phone use (no more FOMO, comparison or anxiety!), and
focus on the things that are actually important to you, whether that’s getting more sleep, engaging with your friends and family wholeheartedly, getting more focused work done, or just resting, reading or spending time on yourself.
By the end of this program, you will:
stop being drawn to your phone every 5 minutes (or let’s be honest: every 30 seconds)
be able to put your phone down easily without white knuckling it thinking about the next time you can pick it up again
feel peace when using your phone instead of anxiety or overwhelm
stop feeling like you’re running around like a chicken with its head cut off all day
know who you are and what your opinions are again
know how to move forward with your true goals (not something you saw on Instagram)
Once you have this knowledge:
You no longer will be thinking about your phone all the time, what to post, who liked your post, who commented, etc etc etc.
You will be able to focus on what’s important to you
You won’t be compelled to check your phone all the time
You will know how to use and maintain your phone time
You will know who you are and how much you want to use your phone AND you know what you want to spend time on that isn't your phone
You feel at peace around your phone.
The struggle will finally be over!
Because you've tried over and over to:
use your phone less,
to be more present with those around you,
to focus on your work and get things done,
to go to bed at a reasonable time,
to feel healthy,
to have clarity and focus in your life.
But to no avail.
You still feel the immense pressure to keep up with everyone else, to be like the photos you see on Instagram.
If you think:
It’s impossible to use your phone less.
You can never get away from phone.
You just have to feel like you’re on call for the rest of your life.
Then this program is for you. Because you can feel better about your life.
It’s possible to feel at ease and truly make the life you want to live.
You don’t have to keep up with everyone on social media.
You don’t have to keep shopping to show you’re worthy.
You don’t have to keep playing games to make points to
You don’t have to work at midnight to prove yourself.
You won’t believe what’s possible.
“This blew my mind more than I thought it would…”
-Annie, Control the Scroll coaching client
You may be feeling like you can never get away from your phone.
Most of us do.
Our phones dictate how we communicate, how we work and how we think about ourselves and the world we live in.
You may not be aware of how much time you spend scrolling and worrying about things happening in the world that you don’t have power over.
You may feel like you can never make a difference or a change in your life.
But you can.
Our phones and being connected is a beautiful thing, but it can also cause us to be:
overconnected
overwhelmed
overstimulated
If we’re not careful of how we use our phones and the apps on them, we can lose sight of who we are, what we really believe in, and how we can make a difference.
I’m here to tell you, there is hope.
You can change your relationship with your phone and with yourself.
You can change how you interact with people.
You don’t need to be pulled toward your phone every 5 minutes, feeling frenzied and unfocused.
This program is a must for anyone struggling with their phone usage.
Melissa is a skilled coach who can help pinpoint what's going on emotionally when we overuse our phone, and help reframe those emotions and create more empowering habits.
- May, Control the Scroll coaching client
Change your world.
You can go from feeling:
Overwhelmed, foggy-brained, and anxious
Unable to make decisions
Like you aren’t smart enough or not doing enough
Like you need to appear a certain way or you won’t be liked
Disconnected with the people around you
That you don’t know what you truly want in your life
To feeling:
Clear-headed and calm
Able to make well-informed decisions for your life
Smart enough and even if you aren’t doing enough, who cares
At peace with the way you are now
Connected with your loved ones
Confident with what you want for yourself, independent of others opinions
Take control of the scroll.
Hey, I’m Melissa
I used to think the best job ever would be Social Media Manager.
I could scroll around on Facebook and Instagram all day?! Yes please, sign me up!
And then, one day I got what I wished for. I got a part-time gig as a Social Media Manager.
Dream job, right?
Wrong.
I was on social media all the time. I couldn’t focus on anything else. I spent hours creating posts and captions and then posting and watching for comments and likes. And I was always worried about the likes my pages were getting.
I took my post engagements on social media for my own self-worth.
My background as a social media manager has shown me how our phones have changed our global society.
I’ve realized I, and so many of us, have been numbing out on our phones and I wanted to help people learn how to stop buffering with their phones and take back control of their time to use it how they want (not what someone on Instagram says).
I help people get off their phones, learn who they truly are, and make real changes in their lives so they can go out and focus on what they want to intentionally (even if for you, that’s getting more sleep).
This work not only changes your phone use, but also every other part of your life.
“Melissa was able to get underneath what I thought was the issue of my phone use to highlight the actual root cause. With attentive close listening, she was able to pick out blocks that I was putting in my way, and gave me tools and a greater awareness to recognize ways change my approach.”
“Her kindness meant our time together never felt judgmental, and without fail I would leave calls feeling lighter and more clear. It was a really valuable program.”
-Annie, Control the Scroll coaching client
The Slow Life REVOLUTION
Control the Scroll is a 6-week coaching program where you’ll learn how to:
live comfortably with and without your phone,
stop being drawn to your phone every 5 minutes (or let’s be honest: every 30 seconds)
process your emotions surrounding your phone use (no more FOMO, comparison or anxiety!),
focus and have way more productivity
feel peace when using your phone instead of anxiety or overwhelm
stop feeling like you’re running around like a chicken with its head cut off all day
know who you are and what your opinions are again
know how to move forward with your true goals (not something you saw on Instagram)
Control the Scroll Coaching Program includes:
Six weekly 55-min Zoom coaching calls with me to talk through where you are now and take action to get to where you want to be.
Weekly PDF writing assignments to get clear on how you want to spend your time.
Weekly email check-ins where we analyze exactly what you’re spending your phone time on and how to change it to spending time the way you want.
Weekly Outline of Control the Scroll:
WEEK 1: What isn’t working
How much time and which apps are you spending your time on? What isn't working for you now? What is causing your problems?
WEEK 2: Goal setting
We’ll talk thru how much time you want to spend on your phone and how to get there.
WEEK 3: Processing Emotions
How your emotions affect your phone use and how to process them before reaching for your phone.
WEEK 4: Change your actions, change your life
How to take action (or stop an action) to change your phone use and not feel pulled toward your phone.
WEEK 5: Results
How to get the results you want for your phone use and in your life.
WEEK 6: Overcoming Obstacles
What happens when your phone use starts creeping up again.
This program will teach you that:
You know who you are, what you think of yourself and how to stand strong in that sense of self.
You know how to manage your mind, and you have the skill of how to accomplish something you thought was impossible.
You can apply this work to your personal relationships, work or money, or anything else in your life you want to accomplish!
This work is so important because you won’t just find out how to spend less time on your phone… you will also have a way to manage your emotions and know how to deal with anything that comes up whether it's on a comment on social media, or something someone says in real life.
I’m almost convinced, but I want more information…
Sign up for a 30-min coaching consultation call and learn more about Control the Scroll and how coaching can change your life.
“I have tried coaching on this issue for years with different coaches and therapists. None have been successful at all…”
“You've completely changed my life in 6 sessions.”
- May, Control the Scroll coaching client
Are you ready to:
Feel at peace around your phone,
Create better real life connections with your loved ones,
Get more restful sleep,
Spend more time on yourself than on your phone,
Make real changes in your life (and the world around you)?
FAQ
Is this an online course?
No, this is one-on-one coaching with me. When you sign up, you’ll be paying for six weeks of one-on-one coaching with me. Not a video series or course. After you sign up, you’ll get a link to schedule your first session with me.
Is this in person or on Zoom?
Our coaching sessions take place on Zoom for 55 min each week for six weeks. I also provide worksheets and email support during this time.
What if I’m not sure about it, but I want help right now?
Sign up for my email list below and I’ll send you three ways you can adjust your phone use right now.
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