I love Love Is Blind and here's why

I love the show Love is Blind on Netflix. I love the unknown, the drama the romance. Yet this time watching Season 2, I was so much more aware of how relatable it is. Because it shows how many people, and particularly women, don’t know what they want and yet they pretend that they do know what they want.

The premise of the show, in case you don’t know, is for men and women to go on dates without seeing each other to show that you can fall in love without knowing what someone looks like. It’s a good premise and it's based on the dopamine hit we get off the unknown, of wanting to see the person we haven’t seen, of wanting to know what comes next (which is a tactic of social media platforms as well that keeps us hooked).

After a certain number of dates you can decide to propose and if you agree, then you will be revealed to one another. One woman was being proposed to and you could see on her face that she was unsure and uninterested and yet 30 seconds later, she agreed to marry this guy. As the producers interview her about this experience, she says, “I made my past mistakes in not having integrity and staying true to myself. And am I making that same mistake? I don’t know.”

This seems so common. Everyone is inundated with what society says they should do with their lives, but women especially tend to think that the most important thing is to please a man, to be agreeable, to say yes. Push away that voice that is telling you not to do it and you do it anyway.

She thought she wanted to be married, she thought she needed to say yes to this guy she knew in her gut wasn’t right for her and so she said yes.

If she had listened to herself, if she had known herself a little more maybe she could have said ‘let me think on it’ or ‘no’ right off the bat.

She came in not knowing what she wanted.

And that’s why I want to coach. I want to get people to a place where they can know what they want in life and have their integrity with themselves to act it out in an honest way.

I want to teach what I’ve learned. Because I used to not know what I really wanted, and I had to learn how to have integrity with myself. I still don’t know what I want in some ways and I’m still learning integrity to see what I actually think instead of what I think the other person wants to hear. This is such a valuable skillset to have and that’s why I want to coach people. To give them the tools to continue to work on themselves and build integrity and confidence to do what they really want in their life.

What do you think? Do you love Love Is Blind as much as me? Do you feel like you could build some integrity with yourself to gain clarity on what you really want in life?